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Media Monday: 5 Things We Should Stop Doing on Social Media (IMMEDIATELY)

For today’s Media Monday post, I’d like to discuss a few things that I see from time to time on social media that are gag worthy in a number of ways. Often my generation is called the “Social Media Generation”, because we live our lives not only offline, but online as well, which sometimes also leads to pretty rough consequences. As a 21 year old with quite the brain full of experience with digital media, I’d like to outline to my readers and non-readers alike the things I have seen online through social media networks that need to end…like….yesterday.

1. Following others on social media to gain their following, and then unfollowing them to reduce the number of people you’re following while maintaining their….followership? I know that was confusing, but bear with me. Here’s an example. The other day, a brand that I really like (not gonna throw them under the bus here, so I’ll leave it at that!) decided that I was worth a follow on Instagram. Me being as excited as I was about their mutual appreciation (and my realization that they had an Instagram, which I hadn’t known prior or I would’ve followed them already!), I clicked the follow button. Big mistake. As soon as I did, they unfollowed. *Sigh* AND THEN MY LIFE WAS OVER. No, but I was annoyed. Why follow me to get me to follow you, only to unfollow me? This also happens in blog support groups (this phrase makes us sound like we’re all addicts. Which we are. Writing addicts.), which I’ve come to realize. Another blogger and I will decide to follow each other to support each other’s blog and writing endeavors LIKE ADULTS and then, like magic, my followers app says, “Hey, this blogger’s a sucker. You lost another one” and I continue to roll my eyes for all eternity. Let’s just not do this anymore. Don’t be shady online, kids. Oh and have a good unfollower app because some people don’t like to play nice with others.

2. Copying blog posts like a bad blogger-sport. Look here, mister (clearly I’m bringing out the big guns). I work hard for my posts. They don’t always come easy to me. They can be a jumbled mess sometimes. I’m not always inspired. I’ve got school work everywhere I turn and, that thought in itself, can destroy my motivation. But you know what? I persevere. I get it done. I plan, I outline, I motivate, I drink lots of coffee, and I put the work in writing. It doesn’t matter if you wrote my blog post letter by letter, word by word, or just copied my cleverly created title that I thought of in the midst of a sugar-induced burst of creativity. From the moment you do this, you’re dead to me. We all have our battles. The fuse to make that bomb-a** post on YOUR OWN BLOG in YOUR OWN VOICE is in your hands, not mine.

I punned so hard on that one. My apologies.

3. Spamming for support. When it’s a known fact that it’s annoying and ineffective. For all of us. And the worst part is I can’t even bring a pitchfork and riot in front of your house because ALL I KNOW IS THE STUPID WEBSITE YOU WON’T LEAVE ME ALONE ABOUT. And no, I refuse to check out what your spam is raving about. I’ll pitchfork riot from across the street. I’m not giving you the satisfaction of this annoyance.

Spammer: “Great post! Let me tell you about this new seo–”

Me: “No.”

Spammer: “seo tool tha–”

Me: “I SAID NO. Can you stop? Thanks.”

Spammer: “……seo tool that–”

Me: “THIS IS MY HOME. THIS IS NOT ACCEPTABLE. If my blog had blinds right now, and a front door, I’d be closing both RIGHT NOW. In your face. Hard.”

Don’t be THAT GUY, the blogger that only cares about their own content. Read blogs to engage in discussion, not to spread your butter all over everyone else’s bread. That sounds creepy, but you know what I mean. I hope.

4. Airing out our dirty laundry on social media. I think we’re all just a little bit guilty of this one, but it’s just horrible. We go on social media and point fingers at others (usually anonymously to most, the subject known to few) to an audience of hundreds, let them all know that we’re fuming on our side of the screen, maybe muster up some support and maybe even some fingers being pointed in our direction, but for what? Does it make us feel any better, to tell everyone at the same time that we are mad? Or hurt? Definitely not. If anything, it fuels the frustration. Why tell a bunch of strangers your list of grievances? There’s nothing they can tell you that can make your complaints go away, other than the typical “you alright?” response and the even less engaging, “feel better” reply. Get a diary, make a friend that doesn’t mind you scream-venting in their face, or take up paintball. Take all that weird, fiery energy and use it in a way that doesn’t make the whole internet groan.

5. Shaming others for their bodies in the safety of our homes and under the shield of online anonymity. If you’ve ever taken a moment to browse a sensation on any of these social media sites (celebrities, musicians, etc.), you’ll realize that at least a handful of the comments are directed towards their bodies. “You’re fat”, “you fat cow”, “eat a cheeseburger”, the list goes on. You’re not any cooler for putting someone else down, you know that right? We all know that the people who comment these things would never have that lack of a heart to say the hurtful things they say online to the subject in person. And if they do, well, that’s sick and disgusting and they need to be parented all over again, or maybe they need a parent that’s going to teach them the right way to treat people. Let’s make the internet more positive. If you don’t have something overwhelmingly heartfelt or positive or encouraging to say, zip your lips. Save your positive comment for someone else who you think deserves it. Having a bad attitude is never in style, not even in the digital world. The world would be a better place if people bothered to be….dare I say NICE to each other.

I hope you’re all having a wonderful Monday, and if you liked this post, share, comment, subscribe, and like! Remember, the humor is all in good fun, but I do mean what I say about the internet doing some spring cleaning. Some changes should definitely be made in the digital social-sphere.

What are some other things you believe people should stop doing on social media?

Leave a comment below!

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Media Mondays: Cinderella to….Tinderella?

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Let’s try something a little different, shall we?

Introduction to “Media Mondays”!

Media is something that reaches our lives in a multitude of ways and contributes to our impression of the world around us. It introduces us to new concepts, cultural differences, passions, and so much more. As a Digital Media major, it’s a topic I am incredibly head-over-heels passionate about and I’d like to inject that passion into my writing more often. I love writing about makeup and other girly things, don’t get me wrong, but I have so many different passions and I feel that it is essential to incorporate all of my interests, instead of focusing on tutorials and reviews like I have lately! I will continue to do these kinds of posts, though, from time to time because I do admit it keeps me in touch with my feminine side! Haha.

With that being said, I’d like to try something a little different. Lately I’ve gotten some feedback that some of my readers really miss my Sassy Saturdays format and would like to see more of it in the future, so really, who am I to refuse? I love doing casual posts for you guys, and I love when you guys give me positive feedback! On Mondays, from this moment moving forward, I’d like to talk about media that has caught my eye recently, whether it’s a newly released flick, a cd worth noting, an app I’ve grown unhealthily addicted to, and so on, but in that format. So casual posts about media that’s worth spotlighting. As a side note, too, I will inform you if the post is sponsored or not, but generally speaking, I only sponsor concepts/apps/products that I personally believe in, and if it is a sponsored post, it won’t be included in Media Mondays. Media Mondays are strictly for me to gather my own thoughts.

 

WARNING: Here is a little side note for those who get offended by sexualized language or anything like that. You might want to stop reading at this point. The language that people on Tinder use isn’t all that clean and I want to keep this review as honest as possible. You have been warned. Turn back now before things get ugly. And weird. Mostly weird.

 


 

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I’m going to jump right into this. Several people requested I do a type of “review” for an app that has recently grown exponentially in terms of popularity among the young adult community and college campuses everywhere: the infamous “Tinder” application. As a newly confirmed singleton, I initially Tinder3cringed at the idea but, through my clenched teeth and willpower to give you guys what you want because I love you, I decided to give it a chance for you guys (and of course for some laughs of my own). And let me just take a moment to say that this is not a dating app. Sure, it’s classified as one in the app store, but let it be known that dating isn’t part of the Tinder community’s primary agenda. Without sugar coating it, it’s a “hookup” app. The app finds people that fit the age preferences that you set as well as the distance preferences, and I kept mine very local and close to my age range. I’m going to be honest here. The app is pretty superficial. I mean, you swipe right if you think they’re cute (let’s be honest, you never get much from reading the bios, other than lots of “420 blaze it” references), andTinder1 swipe left if they remind you of your dad or family in general…. Or look like a creep. Or their one posted photo looks like a stock photo. Or all of the above. Simple as that.  And then you wait until they swipe right on you, if they do. If they do decide to grace you with their presence, then you can chat. It makes the whole thing feel pretty passive and impersonal. Included in this post are several chats that I have experienced with my “matches” made in heaven. In order to preserve their anonymity and save them from the embarrassment that they projected onto themselves by sending me conversations that were worth mentioning (and even more so worth denying that they ever Tinder2said, if asked), I’m going to block out names, pictures, and other identifying information and leave just the creepy, and hilarious, solicitations.The pictures I included are actual conversations that I’ve had on Tinder. So there are several kinds of people that use this app. There are the ones that lead into conversation with funny banter that had me laughing out loud when I read their pickup lines, there are the one’s that dive right in to the heart of the matter, asking for sexual favors and the like, there are the defensive ones that get hot and bothered five seconds after messaging with no immediate reply, there are the ones that want to tell you fun facts and then bail, and there are those who intend to create the most Tinder6boring, tedious conversation known to man with a complete stranger and see how long they can keep them engaging in painful smalltalk. And then there’s a select handful of people on there that do actually want something meaningful. After days of hardcore intense research, I’ve come to the conclusion that this app is just not for me (surprise, surprise). Personally, I’m not down for hooking up and I know for sure that, because of that reason, online dating just wouldn’t work for me. I need to feel conversational and intellectual Tinder8chemistry before I even consider dating someone, and there’s really not either of those things on here. But it was an interesting experience and there are no regrets on my end. If you’re looking for something less serious or you just want to meet some crazies and you have a few free moments to do so, go ahead and download the app, take it for a spin. It’s free on the app store, too, so there’s really no loss in trying it. I’m actually glad someone requested this just so I could see what all the fuss was about.

So here’s how it stacks up in my book:

  • Usefulness: 2/10 – I don’t see it having any use in my life other than for entertainment.
  • Entertainment: 8/10 – It’s funny, I’ll give it that. I met some pretty hilarious people on here, and even the weird ones had me laughing.
  • Overall Score: 5/10 – I wasn’t impressed with the app. Interesting, new concept, but it’s just not my thing.

If there are any other applications or any other types of media that you guys would like me to give a chance and review, you can send them to any of the following links:

I hope you enjoyed this post and I look forward to continuing on with Media Mondays in the future! Thank you for taking the time to continually read, subscribe, and share my work. It means a lot to me.

Have a wonderful (hopefully enlightened) day, and let me know about your experiences Tindering in the comments below!

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“Stripped Tour”, Meet Culture Room! – Starring Phil Barnes and We the Kings

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We arrived early and were lucky enough to make our way to the middle of the venue, just five people from the front. The bottoms of my feet were starting to ache from my heeled leather boots, but I shook off the feeling to maintain my place in the crowd. If any of you have been to an intimate venue, you know that it’s almost impossible to retain a spot if you leave for a moment. The concert go-ers were packed like sardines, and I had to wonder whether it was a hand or someone’s chest rubbing up against my back.

After thirty minutes or so of listening to some pretty vintage bands that I can honestly say I’ve never heard (for good reason), the lights began to flicker. The crowd was growing restless and you could feel the excited energy growing as we awaited the performance. I was under the impression that the show would strictly be We the Kings, but was pleasantly surprised by the stage entrance of an artist I had never seen or heard before: Phil Barnes.

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At first impression, he was handsome. Well dressed, a little scruffy, and it was apparent that, unlike many other music artists, he was humble even when on stage, in the spotlight. He began to strum, and suddenly the whole venue fell in silence. The warmth he brought to the stage could be felt for miles. He captured our attention and, despite everyone initially coming to the show to see We the Kings, cultivated a new group of diehard fans, me being one of them. However, I did have to roll my eyes from time to time between songs, as the rest of the crowd was still focused on the fact that he was attractive. “You’re hot!” they’d shout, laughing amongst themselves. His performance had me absorbing and internalizing the lyrics, swaying and singing along. I don’t think We the Kings could’ve ever had a better preliminary performance. Phil Barnes is a talent worth recognizing.

Shortly after, We the Kings made their way to the stage. This has been about the sixth time I’ve seen them live, but this time around, I would have to say, was better than the other performances I’ve seen by them. Three of the guys in the band, Charles Trippy, Danny Duncan, and Travis Clark, have YouTube channels which they essentially post their entire lives on, documenting each day through their vlogs. From watching these videos, you see the kind of friendship they have amongst themselves. The intimacy of the venue and the small-scale show cultivated their humor in a way that I had yet to see beyond their channels. It wasn’t just their music. The audience got to see the kind of people they were. Their silly jokes, banter amongst themselves and toward the crowd, and the awkward moments when the rain stick took the stage and blew everyone out of the water. I was so moved by the music that I only noticed the uncomfortable bruised feeling on my soles once I was able to make my way back to our car. You know it’s a good show when you forget that you’re in pain!

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My favorite moment in their set was when Travis Clark took to the piano in his poem/song about living your life, called “Is This the End?”. I was immediately drawn to his passion and emotional connectedness toward the lyrics. Even from the audience, I could feel the strength of his words. The piece deviated immensely from their general musical style, but I think that the deviation was an immensely positive one and I definitely think they should explore that style of expression in future pieces.

The dynamic that the band has when they’re together is something that many individuals, including me, would desire to have in their lives and even more so in their careers. They have friends for life within their group, a mutual desire for a larger, shared purpose, and I think that having that kind of family away from your own family is crucial to a fulfilled life. I could only hope that one day I could have a group of people that I could consider my own family as well, a group that supports and cultivates the same aspirations as forcefully and passionately as they do! I also thought it was incredibly admirable that they made the choice to do a “stripped” tour, a completely acoustic set, and traveled as lightly and minimally as they did on their very first musical tour. With a band as big as theirs, it’s important to acknowledge the roots from which they grew their career, and I believe that is a key to their success. They’re still willing to show their fans that they appreciate them and to express gratitude towards the support they’ve received from the start. Thank you, We the Kings, for bringing us back to where it all began once more. The nostalgia was worth every moment.

What was your take on the “Stripped” Tour?
Comment below!

Free at Last! (Personal Update + Poll)

Hello, my darlings!

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This has been a stressful homestretch, scattered with the anxiety of finishing group projects by seemingly impossible deadlines and the threat of upcoming exams that I felt mildly unprepared for, regardless of how hard I had studied. But this semester is finally coming to a close, I’m days away from sleeping in my own bed, and I feel my lungs gaining breath again. I feel like, in the last couple of weeks of a semester, I can barely breathe. I can never manage to take a full, deep breath and close my eyes to pure silence, because I know that once I close my eyes, reality will come back to bite me and remind me of what’s next on my list of things to do. But my head is officially clear, and I can begin to focus more on my art and writing again, and await the moment I can leave campus for an entire freakin’ month to go home and see my family and friends. It’s honestly the best treat a college kid could ask for, at least if they have a tight-knit family like I do. I always miss them when I’m away, but still, I definitely do not regret leaving for college because of this……But yes, I just feel good about everything lately and I am ready to come home and do nothing but things I want to do for the next few weeks. It will be glorious. Went on a bit of a tangent there. Moving right along. But yes, things are dandy on my end if you were wondering! 😉 And if not then….well, fine then. Suit yourself.

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Anyway, I’ve got some time to blow, and I’d love to get your input on a few things. I’m going to start writing daily again (I hope you’re as excited as I am!!), and would like to know what kinds of articles you would like me to write more of! I write for you guys just as much as I write for myself and I’d like to take some requests and what not for this holiday season. So if you could, take a moment and answer my poll below. Hopefully I can take your requests and write something wonderful for them that we’ll both enjoy! And if you have a specific prompt that you’d like answered in a new blog post, my email is mandirito@gmail.com! I’m happy to take email requests as well! I even made it easy. The contact form below will allow you to send your requests straight to my inbox. So go ahead, don’t be shy. I want to know what you think!

Hope you’re all having a wonderful last few weeks of your semester and annihilating your finals like I actually sorta did. You’re almost there. I believe in you! And if you’d like some finals inspiration or just want to peel your eyes away your textbooks for a moment or two, go ahead and check out the facebook page, where I post a bunch of relevant things regarding to finals, college, inspirational quotes, recent blog posts, and other stuff that you might enjoy! And I mean….if you love me….it’d be nice…..: facebook.com/mandirito.the.blogger

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Cmon. You know you want to.

Here is the poll:

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“Fat Girl Costumes”? Really, Walmart?

 

I’m disgusted. Out of all the retailers on this whole earth, it just had to be one that I shop at regularly, one that I rely on for almost all of my beauty and grocery needs because clearly it’s one of the few places I can afford and now I know I can’t have nice things. So tell me, Walmart, why did you have to go ahead and get on my ugly side, rearing your own ugly head for what, a laugh? Because believe me, I’ve got quite a fierce ugly side, an insatiable anger under all of this composure for individuals and companies that show blatant disrespect to their consumers. I don’t agree with labeling costumes that are supposedly above a six as “fat girl costumes” as you so lovingly called them. We all have different bodies, some of us very curvy all over, some with curves in certain places, but are we all under a size six? Are you guys all under a size six? No? No, hell no. I can vouch for this. I range anywhere from an 8 to a 12 sometimes, depending on the dimensions of the clothing. What makes you think a girl like me, someone who works out regularly, eats healthy, and feels confident about her body and shopping for clothing that accommodates her, would willingly want to drop by my local Walmart to browse the “Fat Girl Costume Section” with that kind of title? Who are you to judge my body, label it with a term that is currently perceived as derogatory knowing that the term is being used in a derogatory fashion, and require me to veer away from the obviously “Normal Sized Girl Costume Section” to get a costume that fits without fuss? You, as a major retailer that serves quite a diverse group of individuals, should provide clothes and costumes for plus size and regular sizes, but please, label your clothes with dignity. We all deserve to feel beautiful any day of the week, any holiday of the year, and feel confident and comfortable enough to shop at your establishment. There’s no excuse for this insensitivity and I’m thoroughly unimpressed with the lack of professionalism it took to publish this crap. Shame on you.

What are your thoughts on Walmart’s publishing “mishap”?